How well — or how poorly — we get through a stressful situation depends a lot on us. Here are some steps you can take when dealing with a stressful situation.
1. Understand the Situation. This step helps people feel more prepared to deal with stressful situations.
· Take some time to think about the situation you're facing. Try to describe your situation in a sentence or two. What's stressful about this situation for you right now? For example: My family just moved, so I went to a new school in the middle of the year. The stressful parts are not knowing anyone, missing my old friends, and dealing with all new schoolwork.
· Notice and name the feelings you have about the situation. Accept your feelings about the given your situation. Write down your feelings, too. For example: I feel lonely and sad because of missing old friends and my old school. I'm mad that we had to move, especially now. I'm worried about my progress in math and social studies. I feel left out because I'm the new student. I guess anyone would feel this way if they were in my situation.
· Learn more. Learn all you can about the situation you're dealing with. This might include reading about it, talking to others, or finding out what others in your situation have done and what to expect. Learning helps you feel more confident and prepared — plus it reminds you that you're not the only one who has gone through this.
Keep a Positive Attitude. A positive attitude helps you deal with unhappy feelings. Research has shown that a positive attitude helps us see the possibilities within a situation.
· Don'tthink or talk about the negative for a long time. Don't focus on the bad aspects of your situation for too long. Your power lies in how you react to — and cope with — the situation you're facing. Replace any negative thoughts (like "I can't do this") with more encouraging words. This is the time to believe in yourself. For example: Others have changed schools before and come through it. I know I can manage this.
· Notice and appreciate good things about life. (to appreciate = tounderstand the importance of sth). Be sure to notice some positive things in your life, too. Yes, even now. Each day, think of three things you're grateful (=thankful) for. Gratitude helps develop a positive attitude and keeps problems — even the big ones — in perspective.(be grateful for sth = feeling or showing thanks to someone for some helpful act ▪ I'm grateful to you for your help. ▪ He's grateful for the attention. ▪ I'm grateful (to you) for this opportunity. = I'm grateful to have this opportunity. = I'm grateful that I have this opportunity.— opposite ungrateful